Words.

Carl Jung: So you’re not a believer in monogamy?

Otto Gross: For a neurotic like myself, I can’t possibly imagine a more stressful concept.

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Carl Jung: Sometimes you have to do the unforgivable just to continue living.

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Carl Jung: Pleasure is never simple, as you very well know.

Otto Gross: It is… of course it is. Until you decide to complicate it. Which my father calls maturity. What I call surrender.

All quotes/dialogues are from the movie A Dangerous Method.

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“I do”.

My recent picks in films clearly hasn’t served me well, but nonetheless, I need to write/rant about them.

1. My last day without you (2011)

On a one-day business trip to New York, a young German business executive falls in love with a singer-songwriter who exposes him to her Brooklyn world and emotions he’s never experienced before.

2. Take me home (2011)

Soon after Thom starts operating as an illegal taxi driver in New York City, Claire hires him to drive her to California after her estranged father suffers a heart attack.

3. Take this waltz (2011)

A happily married woman falls for the artist who lives across the street.

4. Last night (2010)

The story follows a married couple, apart for a night while the husband takes a business trip with a colleague to whom he’s attracted. While he’s resisting temptation, his wife encounters her past love.

Apart from the first film, the remaining 3  center around the plot of a married woman falling for another man. Last night includes both husband and wife falling for another person.

I then begin to wonder about love, marriage, vows, faithfulness. What all of these mean. What they are supposed to mean. The notion of marriage. The reason behind the words “I do”.

“You can be happy and still be tempted.” – Micheal Reed, Last night

Is it possible? Does love entail being exclusive? Being faithful? Is love second-guessed when you cheat or even when the mere possibility of it runs through you? Does love have the strength to endure an affair or a temptation? Do affairs cancel out if both husband and wife cheat only to realize it was nothing but a meaningless kiss or bodies that lusted for each other? Or does there lie a bigger truth behind the reason for the affair to begin with or for there to have been temptation at the very least? Unhappy, dissatisfied marriages? Or, curiosity to tiptoe the lines (i.e. boundaries) the marriage has been built around? Is love that powerful an emotion to ensure Man, both genders alike, steer away from the lust and temptations that lurk around them, outside the monogamous marriage and  relationships they are engaged in. Is this what love is all about? Monogamy?

With regards to succumbing to temptations, is there a weaker gender? Men or women? Or is it a question of the strength in willpower rather than gender per se?

“I saw you this morning, and in the middle of most nights when I can’t sleep, I still replay you.” – Joanna Read, Last night

I hope I find the my answers to these, before I say “I do”.

Never let me go.

Kathy: It had never occurred to me that our lives, which had been so closely interwoven, could unravel with such speed. If I’d known, maybe I’d have kept tighter hold of them and not let unseen tides pull us apart.

Kathy: I come here and imagine that this is the spot where everything I’ve lost since my childhood is washed out. I tell myself, if that were true, and I waited long enough then a tiny figure would appear on the horizon across the field and gradually get larger until I’d see it was Tommy. He’d wave. And maybe call. I don’t know if the fantasy go beyond that, I can’t let it. I remind myself I was lucky to have had any time with him at all. What I’m not sure about, is if our lives have been so different from the lives of the people we save. We all complete. Maybe none of us really understand what we’ve lived through, or feel we’ve had enough time.