Unanswered questions.

Do you also have moments where your past flashes right before your eyes? It’s like when you think you’re over and free from all the ropes of your past that is tying you down, it all comes rushing back. What do you do to get rid of them? Or tame those inner demons? Is it even possible to get rid of them completely or just live in a disguise that you’re free from your past? How does it inhibit you from doing better? From reaching towards a better, happier future.


Friday favourites!

1. This reminded me again why I love having a camera with me at all times. You just never know which moment you’d like to capture and look back on 10 years from now.

2. Current blog I’m loving, Simplistic living.

3. Post of the week: Those lovely scary feelings

4. Favourite TED talk I just watched and you should to;

5. Favourite Art Store: Society6

How pretty are their Iphone cases? If I ever switch from BB, you know why. I might just settle for some framed art prints, though I might need more walls in my room to actually hang all the pretty things I’ve accumulated over time.

6. Mantra for all readers/bloggers

7. Highly anticipating all the books that are on the way to reaching my hands.

1. The Friday Night Knitting Club by Kate Jacobs

2. Where we belong by Emily Griffin

3. The lazy millionaire by Marc Fisher

4. Looking for Alaska by John Green

5. The Lost Girls by Amanda Pressner

I’m almost 3/4 way through Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage. I can barely put it down despite starting the book just yesterday. Hopefully, my books arrive just in time to fix the bookworm in me.

I need either to get myself a Kindle or get a new cupboard for my books.

Happy friday, ya’ll.

Success = ?

This post has been inspired by Fat Mum Slim. One of my favourite bloggers. This is another take on it. And below is mine!

I have always wanted to achieve so many things all my life. In the past 3 years alone, I’ve mentally added more things to my already long list of things to achieve by the time my hair turns gray and my knees give way on me, that I’m considering actually penning all of them down. Things to achieve by the time I hit a certain age, with a 5 year span in between my lists. Go figure.

But, I have not measured my success by that till now. Nor, have I pinned hopes on the picturesque image I have about the future ahead of me to define my personal success.

Success to me is very simple and straightforward. It is measured by happiness.

I don’t have a list of 5 or 10 things that I’ve to achieve to be happy, as the things that bring my joy change on a daily basis. Getting dunked into the pool when you can’t swim is fun when it happens once. Try doing that everyday and let me know if you still enjoy it, I’ll salute you. 

This is what success means to me right now. Happiness. And I hope 10, 20 years down the road, I still measure my personal success with happiness as my sole indicator. Of course, I hope expect to be richer, more affluent, have more liabilities and hopefully accumulate some assets along the way. But, I don’t want to use those as my yardsticks to measure success.

My happiness may stem from different things as my world changes. Yet, I still want to be able to define the success of each day I have at hand, with the peace in my heart and the smile plastered on my face in the fleeting moments that pass, from the time my body hits my bed and till my eyes close. And if life goes as planned, include a man to call my own lying beside me.

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 What does success mean to you? I’d love to hear.  

Is the grass really greener?

We often find ourselves envying the lives of people we both know and don’t know lead. Seated from our comfortable seats in front of our 32” flat screen LCD monitor, we wish we could trade lives with someone whom we very easily think is having a ‘better’ life. Be it in terms of having a blessed family, or a weekend full of crazy parties, or the one who gets to displace themselves physically every other week or month. In a nutshell, we think they’ve got it all and forget to consider the issues and struggles they have chosen note to share via the online medium. The wrong decisions they’ve made, the disappointments they’re trying to come to terms with and their sadness gets masked beneath their multitude of posts to share their beautiful and happy moments.

But, is the grass really greener on the side of the pasture or is it just our wants and desires that’s getting the better of us?

Remember that for every person who you envy and want to swap lives with, there will be at least one other person willing to be in your seat. So, cherish what you have got as cliche as it may sound, cause the grass may not always be greener on the other side.

Have you caught yourself in this position before?

Wishful thinking.

Do you wake up every morning hoping to have a clean slate to begin your day? That all mistakes, grudges, failures aren’t kept tabs on and judged. It’s like your count for the day begins with zero and not negative or even positive. So, the day is totally in your control to make or break. Your past has no bearing on your present. Negativity doesn’t hold you back from achieving what you want to do about the next 24 hours you have at hand. You truly live by the day taking one step at a time instead of being overwhelmed by the rest of the years ahead of you.

I do. I wish I had Alzheimer’s. The kind that forgets the bad stuff and retains only the good. Only the happy memories. Indeed, wishful thinking on my part.